Not Your Enemy
Why Real Best Friends Are Your Toughest Critics
Often times people (wrongly) think a best friend is someone who takes their side in any situation, right or wrong, no matter what. Sadly this is the behavior of a terrible friend.
Lack of objectivity is conducive behavior of an enabler…an enabler of poor behavior. The person either enjoys enabling bullshit behavior or is afraid to have honest, open dialect with someone they’re supposed to be closest to. This is not only dangerous & threatening of the relationship in it’s entirety, due to the foundation being built on lies & dishonesty, but also because these friends have now lost the ability to be truly objective & gauge the other’s morality in how they live their lives & treat people they interact with.There’s becoming an alarming trend where no one can have an honest, caring critique of how someone should better themselves for their own well-being or in regards to the way they treat others, without being pegged as an “asshole” or “fake”, when such concern is very much the opposite.
Over time I’ve had friends come & go in my life & I’ve realized longevity is the blood relative of honesty, which isn’t always easily digestible. A lot of time the more honest the concern expressed, the more we should sit, contemplate & truly meditate on it. In a legitimate friendship both people deserve to be heard, respected & have their concerns honestly considered. Friendships of the opposite caliber of honesty often have lots of false spikes & very little falls, but feel empty & unfulfilling.
We as a society have started to pride ourselves on getting healthier, better educating ourselves on dietary pros & cons, attempting to weed out fillers & garbage found in the ingredients of things we grew up eating & for so long considered staples in our lives. It’s 2019, don’t we all wish to upgrade our lives in every possible manner? Don’t we all wish to eliminate everything unhealthy in our lives? Well, in addition to our diets, let’s eliminate fillers from our circle of confidants. Let’s rid ourselves of filler-friends & the unhealthy things that come with their presence, or even lack-of, if they’re not the best at making time for us. Let’s realize when such friends become “friends” & nothing more than a guilty pleasure or something that we were used to having as a staple in our lives at some point. I feel as if i’m in decent physical shape, but when it comes to real friends, I could definitely stand to trim some fat.
